Ed and Dan
Lowell, MIMatch Date: September 13, 2009
I had been married in a lie for much of my life but have two wonderful daughters who made that choice worthwhile. Once they went to college there was nothing holding my wife and me together. Eight months after the divorce I got up the courage to start the life I’d always wanted.
Not knowing where to meet other gay men with similar interests, I saw an eHarmony commercial and was then directed to Compatible Partners. I filled out the profile, being very honest. I received three to four matches a day, and then a week or so later, one in particular caught my attention.
His name was Dan. After getting partway through the guided communication, he suggested we fast track. I was nervous, but I knew I had to learn more about him, because every exchange just made me more interested. After a few days of e-mails, we talked on the phone for two hours, and everything we talked about we shared the same perspective on. The more I knew Dan, the more I felt this was the best relationship I could ever hope for. Could this really be happening?
Over the next few days, we talked 3-5 hours every day. He was the most kind, open, generous, patient, caring, and funny person I had ever known, not to mention the initial chemistry, and I had never seen him in person. I was falling for him and I think he was falling for me. After a few more days of talking, once for 8 straight hours until 5 am, I was thinking maybe this was more than just a friend. Evidently, so did he. Our conversations shifted to future life issues, and I’d dream of spending my days and nights with him. I had never been happier in my entire life. I loved him. I was still unsure about how fast this was all moving, but we were both 49 and happy with our own lives. Everything was matching and nobody was settling! He knew I was scared about this new life, and he gave me the space I needed. I knew he loved me, but I said it first, and I had to. I love that he was patient enough to wait. We were heart and soul in love and still had not met in person. I'm sure this is strange for many to understand, but it was true. It was very scary and wonderful at the same time. He was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and it turns out he felt the same.
The first weekend I could I drove to meet Dan in person, already knowing him better than anyone else in my life. He met me at the door, and we kissed for the first time. This was also the first time I had kissed another man and it was as scary as it was incredible. We had a great weekend together and he introduced me to a level of intimacy that I had never felt.
After that first weekend there was no doubt we’d spend the rest of our lives together. We’re the luckiest people in the world. Two months later, our love continues to grow. We’ve started looking at houses and I’ve started looking for work nearby. We’ve even picked out wedding rings and plan to get married or have a commitment ceremony next spring.
Recently I told my daughters I’d fallen in love and his name was Dan. It took them about 10 seconds to think about that news, and then they both said they were happy for me. We talked a lot, and then they met Dan. They both liked him and said they could see how much we loved each other. The four of us cooked dinner and put up the Christmas tree. Our tradition is each person buys an ornament and adds it to the tree. This year there were four new ornaments to mark the beginning of our new family.
Thank you, Compatible Partners, for the opportunity for Dan and me to meet and fall in love. I believe the thorough profile and the honesty of our responses helped make this match a success.